Weddings are joyous occasions that come into our lives and offer happiness. Of course, this is how we look at it after the wedding day has passed. Before the big day most couples are stressed out over many of the details that go into planning a wedding.
Finding a way to relax before the wedding and during the planning is as important as the event itself. Getting carried away with your wedding dress and tuxedo hunting, finding the perfect wedding band, the best photographer and getting all of them to sync in one single date is as close to magic as we come to.
There is no reason a soon to be newly-wed couple can’t try to enjoy the road down the altar, for it only comes once in a lifetime. The most important part is that you both realize that the wedding will bring some level of stress and pleasing everyone is out of the question. For the future couple here are some tips to help them plan and stay relaxed as much as possible. Remember you are both in this together, never lose sight of each other.
No matter how stressful the day or the week might have been, trying to always stay connected with your partner is key. When we say stay connected we don’t mean a call here and a text there. Make sure to be in tune with each others feelings about whatever the subject might be. Always talk it out with each other, no matter if it’s about feelings you have about the wedding band or the wedding venue. Make a pact and always tell each other what feelings you have towards everything.
Honesty might not always be the best policy, we aren’t suggesting you tell your future spouse something offensive, just express your feelings when it comes to your wedding. After all, it is both your wedding. The lack of communication during wedding planning is what causes most of the problems between couples.
Be the kind of couple that leaves the wedding hassle at the door and remember why you started on this road. Weddings are beautiful events that represent the union between two people, never forget that.
Make a Date out of finding your Music Band
Instead of running around to find everything that you might need for the wedding, try making some of them as fun as possible. Need a band? Make a date with your future wife or husband, and find out where a potential band is playing and make a reservation. Ask your significant other out on a classical date. Maybe there was a band playing when you first started going out and they might suit your wedding entertainment needs. This way the band has significant meaning, you get a romantic evening out of it and a band for the big day. Three birds, one stone.
Surprise each other with a night out. If you live together you can even leave your house and get some flowers and then return to pick up your date as you once did when you first met. Tell them the final destination once you are on the way down to the restaurant or bar where the band is playing.
Fun with the Photographer
If you have narrowed down the photographers you would like, choose the one that is at the top of the list and book a small session with them and make a day out of it. You both get some amazing photos that you can have made into an album that you can name the “pre-wedding-phase” and have it there right next to your future wedding album.
Everyone loves having their photos taken and having a professional session with your potential future photographer will bring you two great outcomes. One, you get to see the photographer’s work and how the photographs turn out. Two, you will get to know them and this will make everything feel a bit more comfortable on the big day. Having a stranger take your photograph is a little bit awkward. Your significant other will love the idea and it can be a present for them before the wedding or if there is an anniversary coming up that you might need a gift for.
When you both find yourselves overwhelmed with all the wedding planning find a day that you are both free and book a spa day. You won’t regret it one bit. Book a couples massage and a facial. When it comes to the facial make sure to not have anything too profound done as you don’t know how your skin might react. A facial massage with a light treatment should do the trick. You will both leave feeling relaxed, less tense, exfoliated and deeply hydrated. If the spa offers a lunch you can enjoy a salad after your treatments. It will be a day just for the two of you and try to make it wedding free, have fun and enjoy each others company.
The bride and the grooms first dance has become somewhat of a key moment as it commemorates the wedding’s official beginning. You don’t have to do a reproduction of Dirty Dancing but you should know a couple of basic moves so that you both look divine on the dance floor, or at least coordinated.
Knowing that you have to perform a dance in front of all of your guests might be a little bit too much. Getting prepared can present a certain difficulty and this is why you should go to a professional.
Consider this, decide on a dance theme and a song and see in which direction you want it to go. Contact a dance studio and book some lessons and go with an open heart. Consider this time your time and enjoy it. This will not be like in school, you get to stand in very close proximity to the person you are going to spend the rest of your lives with.
Go back to a time when you considered dancing to be a fun way to spend the evening. Be young at heart and enjoy your dance lessons.
After all, the first dance at a wedding is the one moment that is guaranteed to be yours and yours alone.
If you have certain tasks to finalize and you do so, reward yourselves. Take each completed wedding task and make a small celebration out of it. If you finally find your wedding dress, take your future significant other out for a dinner. If he finds the perfect suit, celebrate his accomplishment as they all should be considered big steps towards the wedding.
If you have a full day of activities that are wedding related take time between them for a beer, a cappuccino, an ice-cream, small moments just for you. Forget about the time, one way or another they all will get done. Make sure to enjoy every moment.
Have a Secret Key Word
As funny as this might sound, it’s actually a great idea. If you are with your families or the wedding planner and it all gets to be too much have a safe word that is yours. Once you put the word in motion that will be the signal that will make you both go to a place that is quite so that you can share a moment, a kiss or even a hug to recharge. Remember you are both going through this together.
Take a Drive
When things get unbearable, and they probably will, say STOP and just go. Take a drive and change the scenery. There is nothing more calming than a long drive to recharge yourself and put everything back into perspective. The calming motion of a car ride will make you calm down and relax. You can enjoy each other’s company.
Take a Trip
When everything is at maximum speed and not even a drive can do the trick to calm you down, take some real time out, take a trip. Plan a weekend vacation somewhere near or book a flight somewhere and just go. A weekend away from everything will be the key to all of your wedding stress. You both get to enjoy the scenery and the time together.
Vacations have always been the answer and there is not a soul that wouldn’t agree.
You get the opportunity to be alone with each other, take walks and visit certain sites, or just lay in bed at the hotel and relax.
If taking a trip is out of the question, bring a far away destination into your home. There are so many wedding related movies that will make you laugh and realize that your wedding is progressing just fine in comparison to others. A great movie would be “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”. You will have a much-needed laugh and you will both relax.
Take a walk
Every night before going to bed try taking a walk together to make you sleep better and forget the wedding planning. Walking has been proven to make you sleep better. Take some fresh air in and have a great nights sleep.
Eating healthy will do wonders for your health, hair, and skin. On your wedding day, the end result will be appreciated and you will be very pleased with yourselves. Have some moments where you indulge in some chocolate, maybe even dark chocolate (so that you don’t feel bad afterward), some frozen yogurt instead of ice-cream, treat yourself as much as possible but remain healthy.
Try to stick to your ideal weight so that the wedding gown and the tuxedo fit perfectly so that you do not have any surprises before the wedding.
If you happen to like fish, a salmon diet will do wonders for your skin making it glow and giving it that extra wow that anyone would want to have.
Keep happy and healthy, and do it together.
When it comes to wedding planning, as stressful as things might get, there is always an answer. Try to remember that you are both in this together and be kind to each other. Do not be considerate just to yourself, be there for your partner as well. This will make the journey down the aisle memorable and fun. Remembering great moments will be the gift you give yourselves.
Jack Robertson is a writer and enthusiast of all things to do with weddings and planning to tie the knot. He works for Le Petite Chateau, an unusual wedding venue in the North East UK.