When writing about weddings, I really love to hear from couples who are willing to share their experiences planning their weddings. This is a wonderful collection of couples who have been there and want to pass on some great advice to help you get through all the mayhem that comes with planning a wedding. I truly hope this information will help all of you complete your check list with as little stress as possible!
Some General Advice
If you organise your wedding the way you want it to be, instead of what you “think” it should be, you will spare yourself a great deal of anxiety. The most important thing to remember is staying calm and relaxed when going through the planning process. It will take time but if you follow some good advice it won’t be as difficult as you might think. One couple said that after everything came together their wedding day was like one big party!
May I Speak?
Some couples said they wanted to thank their family and friends for their support throughout the entire planning process and joining in on their special day. It only takes a few minutes to stand up and say thank you! Your guests will appreciate your thoughts.
Finding the Perfect Photographer
Let’s face it, you want a photographer who can capture the ambiance of your wedding day. Though it might take a little time, you should check out different photographers in order to find the one person who will be in sync with you. Once you find the right photographer, allow them to show you how they will set up their photo shoot to capture wonderful memories for years to come.
Allow Your Parents A Little Leeway
Keep in mind, parents are people too and if they want to invite a few of their friends, welcome it! Your Mum and Dad want some bragging rights, so allow them to invite people they can brag to. Don’t get hung up on small issues, just realize you are marrying the most important person in life! Once the party is in full gear, both of you and your many friends can just kick back and celebrate! Have a few cocktails on me!
Start Planning As A Couple
Planning can seem overwhelming and will be if you don’t focus on just one step at a time. If you work together, as a team, you will have each other to lean on throughout the planning process. Planning together will help alleviate some of that stress as well. You will probably be bombarded by family and friends suggesting you do things differently. Don’t let them bother you, just stick to your guns and do it your way. Let others know you appreciate their input, but this is your day and your way!
If you split up the list of To Dos between the two of you, things will get done smoothly. As a team, when all is said and done, you will both come out a great deal confident that all is well! You should start planning a good deal ahead of time and go through your list gradually. Do not put things off too long or you will run out of time. It will be a great deal less stressful when you both compromise and delegate where you can. Both of you must focus on planning for the two of you, not for your guests. Once you start planning together, the entire process will actually be quite enjoyable.
Booking Your Events
You should start the booking process as early as possible. Everything must come together at the same time so make sure you have coordinated your venue, caterers, band, etc. Once everything is set to go, you can relax a little bit.
Your Special Day Will Be As Individual As You Make It
Start thinking outside the box. Choose things that are meaningful and important to each other and above and beyond all else – Trust Each Other! Keep in mind, your big day should be a day you will remember with great fondness for years to come. Make sure you include things that are important to both of you.
Don’t Worry About What Is Expected Of You
You will both have your own expectations and what you consider traditional, just don’t get carried away. Don’t let perceptions take control over what you really want to do! Keep in mind, you cannot please everyone all the time. You two are the focal point of this event so make sure you are going to really enjoy it. Don’t fall into the pit believing that certain things must be done a certain way because it’s always been done that way – rubbish! Customise your wedding day to suit you, not what the rest of the world expects. If you plan your wedding around what works for you, it will be a unique and happy moment. A little tradition is always nice but it should not be your overall theme.
The sooner you get through your planning process the better. Start organising your plan months in advance, set up a system so both of you can balance important issues together. Organising will get rid of clutter and keep you focused one step at a time.
Consider your wedding day as just one huge party that is being thrown for the both of you along with your family and friends. Again, the only opinions that really matter are those of the wedding couple. You are a team, so share the responsibilities when it comes to making decisions and getting things checked off the planning list.
Try using a spread sheet to manage and watch your expenditures, keep track of supplier’s invoices, for setting dates and times when certain things must be completed. A spread sheet will keep everything on track and not leave you wondering what you might have overlooked.
The Big Day Is Here
Again, don’t stress just go with the flow! Remember, this is a very special day but it should also be a great deal of fun! Should things go wrong, so what! Tell yourself you are only human! Years down the road you will probably have a good laugh! Just relax and take in everything that went off without a glitch thanks to your careful planning.
Most couples will tell you to get your photos taken and out of the way at the very beginning. Round up a few close friends that can step in and take care of situations without coming to you for help. Remember, all your guests are made up of people who love and care about you. They want nothing but the very best for both of you, so don’t get crazy!
Little things are going to go wrong but they really don’t matter. One bride told me that during her wedding day, her beautiful gown was stained by a glass of wine. She laughed and said that had someone told that could happen a week before, she would have gone crackers! When it actually happened, she just laughed!
I hope some of these pieces of advice will help you out when planning for your very special wedding day! Those reading this that have already been there and done that, is there other advice you would like to add? Words of wisdom are exactly that, they are meant to be shared to help someone else have a great wedding day!
Keep in mind, no matter how carefully your plan, nothing is ever perfect!