There are only two people that are the main attraction when it comes to weddings, the bride, and the groom. The bride is the beautiful centerpiece in which the groom moves around. Everyone is focused on the beautiful princess with the white gown. But what about the handsome groom?
It is not as if he got up in the morning and just put on a suit and showed up to the wedding looking all dashing. There is so much time and effort that goes into being the groom and yet he is easily overlooked. There is nothing wrong with the bride being the center of attention, but let’s take a look at the groom as well. This is dedicated to all future grooms out there and your efforts to be the best version of ourselves possible.
For most soon to be grooms the whole idea of a wedding is a lot to take in and understand. Most men are unprepared for all the activities that that will require his attention. In all honesty, the bride usually takes care of everything wedding related. The bride usually has help from her bridesmaids or from her personal wedding planner. Most grooms meet with the wedding planner very rarely and that is just fine.
As a groom most men think that you have very little to do as for example “just show up” and you are golden! That is a very wrong and outdated concept. After all is this not his wedding as well? We will focus on all the details that go into a wedding when you are the future groom.
Congratulations on your engagement. Here you are a man that has made the biggest decision of his life and there is no way to describe the high that happens when a man decided to make a commitment and go out and choose an engagement ring for the love of his life. For women, the engagement starts from the moment they are proposed to and accept the offering of an engagement ring. Everyone is happy and joyous.
As a future groom, your first order of business is finding the right wedding suit or tuxedo. This is not the ordinary suit that you just put on at any formal occasion. As a future groom, you have to somehow work with the fashion challenges that all men are faced with, lack of variety. You need to make yourself stand out from all the other suit-wearing guests that will be attending your wedding. Future grooms have to go and search for the perfect jacket with satin facings, classic facings or something more abstract if he wishes for. All these decisions have to be Bride Approved of course.
After the groom has found the perfect tailored wedding tuxedo or suit he has his next task set, finding the right pair of shoes. Sure you might not be Cinderella but finding the right glass shoe is just as important. Most grooms think that once you have found the right pair of shoes that go with your suit you are done. That is a very wrong presumption. Most future grooms should try to break in the new pair of shoes so that when the big day arrives there are no surprises. As small as a pain caused by footwear might seem, it can ruin your day altogether. Try these shoes on around the castle. Check to see if the shoe sole is slippery so that you do not slip on the dance floor. Take them to the venue and check to make sure. If they are slippery worry not, you can either wear them outside or create the imperfections on the soles yourself.
Don’t relax just yet future grooms as the next part will be even trickier. Accessioning your groom look. Luckily enough there is some variety to choose from when it comes to a grooms choice of accessories. The key piece will always be the watch for any respectable man, especially on your wedding day. Make sure you have a handkerchief on you. Another key vestimentary piece is the cravat or the bow tie depending on what you wish to hear. Find the right cufflinks and make sure they are in perfect sink with your watch. Silver cufflinks with a gold watch might not be appropriate on your wedding day when all eyes will be on you.Choosing to be a classic groom will also ask for the presence of a waistcoat or a cummerbund. If you want to go all out you can opt for a classic pocket watch if it suits your character.
As a future groom to be there are some fun parts when it comes to preparing for your future wedding, choosing your groomsmen. Since modern times dictates for all of your best friends to be apart of your wedding we must accept and take action. Since your buddies have always been by your side there is no reason not to have them near you when big events present themselves. With groomsmen, you just have to get the allowed number from your bride and start picking the right “bros”. You can even make the proposal of the groomsmen a fun and inventive one. You can either summon them all and offer them a token of your future appreciation with a small goodie bag filled with the main male necessities in times of celebration; cigars and whiskey. You can even consume them as a celebratory moment.
After the future groom has chosen the groomsmen comes one of the toughest or easiest parts, all depending on how many true best friends the groom has, choosing the best man. When it comes to choosing your best man there can only be one. If you have many close friends then having some of them as groomsmen will make the final pick easier and no will feel left out. It will create the feel as if the groomsmen have all won runner-up. This can also cause some tension but as long as you are sure of your choice when choosing a best man there is no need for any other of your friends to get upset, after all, it is your wedding. Offering the best man a more profound gift in honor of him accepting would be a nice gesture. Try not to flash it in front of the groomsmen. Discretion is everything.Your best man will be there by your side before and at your wedding making sure everything goes smooth and event-less and everyone is peaceful and joyous. The Best Man is somewhat of your personal helper and peacemaker.
Now the whole team is set comes the other parts. Since most men do not go around wearing makeup, it might be hard for a groom to outlook himself on his wedding day. Getting a facial periodically a couple of months before the wedding will help him look his best. The photos come out even better with a clear face to pose. Try making your first appointment a couple of months before the wedding and have one each month. If you notice that there are no side effects to your skin after each treatment then have one before the wedding.
Now comes another fun part that might be more to any future grooms liking- the bachelor party. After all the wedding planning and preparation comes a night that is yours and yours alone. A night to celebrate with all of your friends the moments that are about to come. We wouldn’t suggest looking at it as your last night out, look at it as a celebratory evening in victory of all that has just happened. After all, you will be seeing them again, you aren’t going off to war, it’s only marriage!Most movies show this night as one of the craziest nights in most men’s lives. It really isn’t! It is just a great night with your best friends! Unless you are all the “Wolf gang” from the “Hangover” you should be safe. Enjoy this night.
As your wedding is closing up, you might find yourself a little overwhelmed with the dancing parts that are required of you on your wedding day. Unless you are a regular Patrick Swayze in “Dirty Dancing” you might need some outside help. Besides the first dance, there will be other moments that will require you to dance. These moments will be “most” moments at your wedding. Take a couple of dance classes just to make sure that you do not make a fool of yourself or of your beautiful bride. Think of it as a very male form of aerobics with a twist. Now that the wedding is getting closer and closer try on your suit for a small check on how it fits. If there are any alterations that need to be made then make sure to have a tailor on hand. Contact him to make the necessary changes. Try to do this about 2-3 weeks before the wedding. Once the suit is altered try to keep a steady balance in weight so that it won’t be too big or small on your wedding day. There might be extra stress that not only brides feel but the groom as well and you might find yourself skipping meals.
Make sure you have a fresh haircut and a good shave. You know best how your hair grows and when it looks at its best. Synk that moment to your wedding day. “Groom” yourself to look your best. Try getting a manicure to make sure that your nails are photo worthy.
The most important part of being a future groom is to not lose sight of what is important, your bride and the wedding. Have your vows ready before the day of the wedding. Try to start them in time so that you are not in a rush. There are services out there that can help you write your vows. Maybe you don’t have the words, someone else can put them in perfect balance.
As it seems the groom does have a lot of duties when it concerns his wedding. We didn’t even mention that trough all that he goes through he still has to keep his future bride happy at all times. Men might seem like they just put on a suit and hop on down to the wedding as a casual guest with a flower pinned to their chest, but in reality, a lot of time and energy goes into his groom wedding preparation.
Jane Wingrove is a writer specialising in all things about wedding planning and getting ready for the big day. She works for Newton Hall wedding venue. Married in 2007, Jane now has 2 children and lives happily on the Northumberland coast in the North East UK.